It is Over?! - Reasons for Divorce

Comments made on an online forum described how people had discovered they were separating and, what had for them been the final straw. These are repeated below and are par of the course for a specialist divorce lawyer.  No matter how intimate or embarrassing a situation is for you, it is business as usual for us.

  1. My husband was cheating. I found out, and instead of immediately dumping his ass, I said, let’s try to work this out, but you have to dump the girlfriend. His response was, “but what if you and me don’t work out?”.
     THAT was the final straw.
  2. Probably when I returned home and found all the furniture, food and my wife missing. Another hint was the empty bank account. She literally took the last straw. She even took the ice cube trays out of the freezer.
  3. My mum did this to my dad, pretty much. They sold their house to live with his dad who had cancer and one day she took everything, all the money, and us…. and moved to another State without telling him.
  4. I came home from work. There was note on the table. She had dropped our kids off at her grandparents, told them she was going shopping and left the country.
  5. Sitting in bed one night and she is going on about me not being in love with Jesus as her friend’s husband was. She asked me what I was thinking… I take a deep breath. My hands are shaking. My stomach is churning. I speak. “Your mood affects me”. She looked at me angrily and yelled “that’s what Victor said to me” (her second husband of 2 years).
  6. When I came home to find her sister’s husband naked in my bed.
  7. I set up a recorder on the telephone and after a few days heard her saying “come, let’s have sex, please pretend to be interested this time”, after a long and boring argument between the two of them.
  8. I came home early from work because of a migraine. Found him in bed with my best friend. Oddly, I was more hurt by her behaviour than his.
  9. I had been in hospital the night before and they had planned to do surgery for suspected appendicitis. It turned out to be so acute the surgery was cancelled and I was discharged and instructed to rest. By that morning I hadn’t eaten for almost 2 days. My husband came to the hospital to pick me up. He sat in the car about a block away with the engine running waiting for me to walk to where he was!
    He also called his work to say that he was taking the day off to look after me. In reality he spent the day in bed or playing PC games. There was no food in the house and he refused to go grocery shopping because that was my job.
  10. We had been struggling financially for a long time having barely recovered from job loss, eviction and homelessness. We bought 2 pizzas at Aldi, one pepperoni for me and one Supreme for her. She ate her pizza some night that week, I hadn’t eaten mine yet.
    One day later that week I had been thinking about my pizza all day at work. I had been living on a diet mostly of noodles, pasta and sauce – butter etc. I was really craving that pizza. When I got home from work I found my pizza gone. Despite having other food in the cupboard and despite knowing that the pizza was earmarked for me, I found that she had eaten it anyway because she “wanted it”. I was practically heartbroken. That pizza and her eating of it was symbolic of every decision she had made that showed a total disregard for me…..
  11. When I found an abortion follow-up appointment letter. (we hadn’t had sex in over a year).
  12. When I did all the chores for us to have a relaxing weekend. I vacuumed the flat, cleaned everything, did the bathroom, went grocery shopping, washed 2 loads of clothes and hung them to dry, new bed sheets, made dinner that was on the table when she got home. All during the day I sent her texts telling her what I was doing. Her reaction when she got home was typical “why haven’t you done the dishes?”.
  13. When he handed me several spreadsheets setting out dates and times  I stopped for a drink at McDonalds.
  14. When he began stalking a girl on X Box.
  15. When he started talking to another girl on the PS4.
  16. He wouldn’t get a job. He would make a big show of looking for work, fill out applications, then stuff them in the car and never turn them in. Finding them in the car was the last straw.